Advice Perfetta: Family Gatherings

Question: Every year at Christmas our family gets together, and there is always so much bickering! I know it’s kinda inevitable, but how can I make our big family Christmas less argumentative?

Dear Reader,

Anytime family gets together, there is always a risk for arguments to arise. Firstly, a big reason that happens is because you are all comfortable enough to speak your mind to each other, which may not feel like a positive at the time of an argument, but can be seen as a small silver lining.

The structure, relationships, and history of each family is unique and complex. So much happens throughout a lifetime, and when everyone gets together, things from the past can be dragged back up. If you want to take on the task of being a mediator, try to steer the conversation in a more pleasant direction if you see things going south.

Plenty of people (not just your family members) have different political and social views, different financial situations, and even cheer for opposing sports teams! If you find that you are in the middle of an argument about something that really in the grand scheme of things isn’t that big a deal, be the bigger person and agree to disagree. Is convincing your Uncle that his point of view is antiquated worth rocking the boat at a holiday dinner? Probably not..

At the end of the day, being able to celebrate the holidays with loved ones is extremely special, so don’t let yourself get bothered by the little things, and don’t hesitate to defuse a situation, rather than keep an argument going.

Hope that helps! Till next time…

-Advice Perfetta